I agree totally with what Jean says.
I have had no problem with private messaging and consider myself sensible enough to cope with it if I do.
So why do the majority once again have to suffer for the minority?

I would like to know which threads NRAS consider to be inappropriate.
How can we put something right if we don't know what we are doing wrong?

Doreen

UM, excuse me, but

when did we know they were to be removed/stopped?

No-one had the manners to tell me /warn me they would be being withdrawn. This will cause me to stop using this forum, I'm afraid, there's no proper moderating and our messages are removed/withdrawn without warning or explanation. I no longer come on here regularly, but, when I do, I expect to find "stuff" I thought belonged to me to still be where I left it. Like some others who do behave, I was in the process of offering PRIVATE support to someone, so now what?? Yes. my email address is useable, but I keep it private......and disclose it to others......... because I want to. I don't neccesarily want my private life invaded by NRAS stuff, that's what I hoped the forum was for.

I am REALLY annoyed to be "tarred with the naughty brush", simply because SOMEONE has, apparently, mindlessly and spitefully used the PM option to upset someone However, this is an issue between the two correspondents, and has NOTHING to do with me and many others

so

WHERE are my PRIVATE messages, NRAS??????


Oh. just checked.......and there 's your message, no prior warning, just all pm's removed, what a bloody cheek

NRAS. there are some on here who ARE old enough to behave responsibly, and it seems we are to be scapegoats for the minority who don't. Shall not be renewing my membership if this high handed attitude continues.

We can't even reply on the official thread so will our protests be seen here, and answered??? Silly question, big brother is certainly watching us.

Lylie
ps have just read Eleanor's post...............totally agree!!!!!

and in that single that i know of case of misuse, i believe the complainer accepted an apology from the offender. BY PRIVATE MESSAGE

NRAS:

I am almost at a loss for words, BUT NOT QUITE! This is an adult forum, on the whole, for those who share a common interest. It has been a blessing to me, especially in the past, because I felt so alone with all my concerns. Sensible, caring people responded to each others questions and linked in with each other in that way. As could be expected, individuals wanted to meet up or have other kinds of contact and used the public forum to exchange details. This was risky. The new forum , in my opinion, has not met the high spec of the old in that it no longer feels so friendly and is more time consuming in looking around. However, it did offer the PM service which alleviated the public aspect of exchanging personal details. I would expect that most of those who use it do so responsibly and if they do not, can be easily identified and advised of this. Repeated offenders could have their membership withdrawn. So I am sad that it appears as if we are all being treated as if we are all irresponsible, by the service being withdrawn. This reminds me of school frankly!

It also seems that there is a problem with offensive posting. I have found some posts very offensive eg the chap advocating the use of illegal substances. Recently, I have not spotted anything, in my opinion, that offended me as much as that did. Yet, on refection, I decided at the time that the job of NRAS was not to police the site, just to make it available for those members who use it. We can monitor ourselves by ignoring/not reading any post which is offensive. That is what we do in our day-to - day life. We choose.

We all understood when the above mentioned thread was eventually removed as the reasons why were made clear. Can we be informed of the reasons why other threads are considered offensive and if/why they are to be removed? Also can we be updated as to where we can access the personal messages contained in our PM facility prior to the removal?

I anticipate an early response to this,

Eleanor urquhart

and have lighthearted threads been removed? which ones? what lessons can we learn from this? moderation action should be better explained.

don't tend to read the fun threads. i did report one once, mind. it wasn't light hearted though, it was explicitly racist. did it go? I wasn't told so, and therefore assumed it was still there. Surely I would have been told it it had? <Goes and looks>. No it's still there and STILL racist.

getting a bit tired of putting up with this guff just to have access an RA community.

I also had some messages with information that I was keeping, or so I thought, they have now been stolen.

As far as I'm concerned this is the last straw.

I and others had some posts removed recently without being told, ( there was nothing wrong with the advice we had given) all because the person who had started the thread had decided she didn't want it on the forum anymore.

I think I'll look for a more adult forum.

Doreen xx

Well, I think the PM facility should be reinstated immediately. It was probably one of the best things about the new site!

PS; Do you suppose the 'light hearted threads' reference is the girls night out thread?????????????????????????????

How would we know Amanda if they don't tell us?
We can't put things right if we don't know what has gone wrong.

Doreen xx

The "Girls Night Out" seems to be safe for now - but who knows?! I've bumped it up

Would have pm'd you Stewart - but I forgot I can't any more!
Jxx